They say the magic happens outside your comfort zone…
There’s something about travel that pulls us out of our patterns. It asks us to see the world, and each other, in a different light. This trip to California my partner Nicholas and I took wasn’t just about the beauty of the land (although that was breathtaking). It was about learning about how two very different people can create something even richer when they choose to find love and meet in the middle. It was about how love grows when you choose to step outside your comfort zone, stay open to new experiences, and let differences be teachers instead of barriers. What unfolded between us in those days reminded me that balance isn’t something you find, its something you create together.
Nicholas and I are very different. Especially when it comes to pace. He’s go, go, go, always ready for the next adventure. I’m more of a slow and savor kind of person..happy to cuddle in bed and take my time.
It took a few days, a couple of constructive arguments, and some emotional moments to really find our balance. But when we did, it felt like something softened. He gave me the space to feel whatever I was feeling without taking it personally or trying to change it. And I gave myself the trust to adapt and lean into the moment without losing who I am. That’s where we could finally meet in the middle.
In Yosemite’s beauty, we started to fall into a flow. He slows his steps so we could stop at the river and cool down. I tried things I might not normally do, just to be in the moment with him. We supported each other when the other was tired. We let each other just be without needing to “fix” anything.
Our little tiny home tucked into the trees by the river felt like the most sacred place in the world. We cooked together, made fires, grilled hot dogs, drank wine under the stars, and let the stillness of night wrap around us. Being there just days before the full moon felt like a blessing.
There’s this feeling that hits you sometimes, when you realize you’re exactly where you’re meant to be, growing in exactly the ways you were always meant to. And you see how having someone by your side who sees life the way you do, in the ways that matter most..it makes you braver. More willing to look at the harder parts of yourself, to understand them, and to love them.
And maybe that’s what allows you to call in the truest, most beautiful version of yourself you’ve ever been.
That’s really all affirmations are, simple reminders of truth.When life gets heavy, when old patterns show up, when fear tries to run the show- affirmations help you remember.
They aren’t about forcing yourself to believe something fake. They’re about bringing your mind back into alignment with what’s already true underneath all of the noise.
Why Affirmations Work
Your mind is constantly recording what it hears, even if you’re not aware of it. The more a thought repeats, the more your brain wires itself around it. That’s how patterns get built- both helpful ones, and unhelpful ones.
Affirmations are a way of consciously choosing what you’re repeating. You’re offering your mind new material, thoughts that are rooted in your power, not your fear.
The brain doesn’t care whether a thought is empowering or disempowering. It just builds around whatever it’s given. Affirmations give you a way to hand your mind something empowering to build around.
How to Use Affirmations
Say them out loud — hearing your own voice speak truth is powerful.
Write them down — let your hand move the energy onto paper.
Put them where you’ll see them daily — mirrors, phone backgrounds, sticky notes.
Use them when doubt shows up — that’s when they’re most needed.
Breathe them in like little prayers — not rushed, but felt.
And most importantly:
Consistency > Perfection.
You don’t have to “feel it” every time. You don’t have to get it “right.”You just have to keep giving your mind new material to work with.
And before you know it, you’re faced with a situation that once would have brought you to your knees, but now, you’re fully equipped to handle any emotion that comes your way.
I remember the first time I noticeably changed the direction of my thinking, ironically after spilling an entire gallon of milk on the kitchen floor (don’t cry over spilled milk) I decided to laugh at the situation instead of let it alter the course of my day and mindset. I felt empowered and gained so much confidence in myself at that moment.
It takes twenty one days to form a habit. If you choose to change any habit, I encourage you to start here. Because once you can change your mindset, you can change anything.
A Few to Work With
Here are some simple ones to try:
I am enough — right now, exactly as I am.
I am safe.
I am worthy of joy.
I am becoming who I came here to be.
I am supported in every moment.
Final Reminder
You’re not making something true.
You’re reminding yourself what’s been true all along.
Here are a few of my favorite Affirmation tools I use daily:
Lately, I’ve found myself revisiting the same lesson again and again. How deeply I have been conditioned to expect the worst, to brace for struggle, to subconsciously believe that I have to earn my right to be okay.
It doesn’t always scream at me.
I’ll be halfway through the day and realize I’ve been running on autopilot- not entirely present, just going through the motions. I’ll think of a list of things I have to take care of, and instead of starting a task, I shut down.
That’s the voice of lack too. For a long time, I didn’t recognize it. I thought that was just how I was wired.
But the more I peel back the layers, the more I see that this is a freeze response, one I learned early on.
From moments when I felt unsupported, when asking for help I didn’t feel safe, when emotions were too big for the room I was in. So my system coped by going quiet. By checking out.And even now, as an adult trying to rewire it all, my body sometimes still thinks it has to protect me that way.
But I’m learning to meet those moments with compassion, not judgment.
To say: You don’t have to disappear to be safe. You don’t have to be invisible to be loved. You’re allowed to take up space, even in stillness.
And when I can remember that — even for a breath — I start to come back online.
Not in a big, dramatic way. But in small, sacred ways that remind me:
Abundance isn’t something I chase. It’s something I allow.
The Power of “Catching It”
It happens in fleeting moments. I’ll catch myself mid-thought, mid-worry, and pause. I don’t always feel better right away, but that pause is sacred. That’s when I reach for my reminders:
“Everything always works out for me.”
“I am supported. I am safe. I am provided for.”
“I don’t have to hold it all. I can be held.”
These words aren’t about pretending. They’re about remembering — if even for a breath — that abundance is already within me. Sometimes that’s all it takes to feel a soft shift, a glimmer of peace, like my nervous system just unclenched a little.
And to me, that glimmer is everything.
Rooting Down to Rise Up
As I do this work, I’ve been drawn to my root chakra more than ever. It makes sense, the root is all about safety, trust, and the right to exist in peace. For most of my life, that’s felt like something I had to prove or earn. But I’m realizing now… I don’t.
Balancing this energy isn’t about being perfect. It’s about presence.
I’m learning to feel into my body more. Noticing where the tension lives, slowing down my breath, stepping barefoot into the grass when I can. These small acts help rewire the story that I’m alone or unsupported.
Because I’m not. And neither are you.
I’m Not “Fixing” Myself — I’m Loving Myself
Maybe that’s the biggest shift of all.
For so long, I thought healing meant removing the fear. That if I still had doubt, or stress, or scarcity pop up, I must not be doing it right.
But now I see that healing isn’t about elimination.
It’s about relationship. With myself. With my thoughts. With the parts of me that still get scared sometimes.
I’m not trying to force myself into fake positivity. I’m not slapping affirmations over wounds I haven’t acknowledged.
I’m learning to listen — gently. To notice when my inner child is afraid and offer her safety, not shame.
To slow down just enough to whisper:
“I see you. You’re allowed to feel this. And you’re still safe. You’re still loved.”
Lack still visits me sometimes, but I don’t build a home for it anymore.
I don’t feed it. I don’t let it drive.
Instead, I light a candle for truth. I breathe deeper. I come back to presence. I affirm again, not to fix myself, but to love myself back into remembrance.
And honestly? That’s the most abundant thing I’ve ever done.
For You, If You’re Walking This Too
If you’re doing this work, rewiring your beliefs, learning to trust the unknown, remembering that you’re worthy just by being alive — I want you to know something:
You’re doing beautifully. Even if it feels messy.
Even if you have to remind yourself a hundred times a day.
There is a truth the heart knows, but the mind sometimes forgets.
Actions may become distorted.
Souls remain divine.
We are invited to see beyond the veil of judgement into the deeper memory of Oneness.
Distortion Is Not Identity
When we encounter cruelty, selfishness, or harm, in others, or in ourselves, it is easy to collapse it into labels: “Good” “Bad” “Worthy” “Unworthy”
But distortion is not identity. It is forgetting. It is the result of pain, fear, and disconnection wrapping around a light that has never been extinguished.
The soul remains whole.
The soul remains divine.
Even when forgotten.
When we realize distortion is not the souls truth, we stop making enemies of others. We stop making enemies of ourselves.
We can witness pain, fear, anger, without merging with them or defining anyone by a single moment.
Every judgement we hold against another, or against ourselves, is a stone we place in a wall around our hearts.
Understanding does not mean agreeing. It means refusing to imprison the heart behind barriers of fear. Judgement says, “You are your mistake.” Understanding says, “You are learning. You are still light.”
When we choose understanding, we choose to remember. Everyone is walking their own sacred, messy, beautiful journey home to Source.
We Do Not Excuse Harm, We Remember Love
Accountability matters.
Boundaries matter.
Choosing wisdom matters.
But our deeper work is to see through distortion without letting it shatter our remembrance of Oneness.
Love does not blind itself to pain.Love sees pain clearly – and still chooses compassion. Love sets necessary boundaries – without hatred. Love holds truth and compassion in the same hand.
We are not called to excuse cruelty. We are called to refuse to let cruelty destroy our ability to love.
Even Those Lost in Distortion Are Walking Home
Some lessons are learned through joy. Some are learned through sorrow. Some are learned over many lifetimes of forgetting.
All journeys eventually lead home.
We are not here to “save” anyone. We are not here to “fix” anyone. We are here to witness the Divine spark still glowing, even when its buried beneath layers of pain.
We are here to remember. For ourselves. For others. For the whole.
Real Life Reflections
In daily life, this remembrance invites us to soften:
When we see someone lashing out in anger online, we can pause and remember, “They are still learning, just like I am.”
When a loved one speaks from fear instead of love, we can set boundaries if needed- but also recognize the hurt beneath their harshness.
When public figures act from distortion, we can hold them accountable without reducing them to their worst moment.
When we judge ourselves harshly, we can whisper: “I am divine even in my imperfection. I am still walking home.”
The more we practice, the more the walls fall away. And bridges of light are built in their place.
How Do We Practice Seeing the Divine Within All?
Small, powerful ways to integrate this truth daily:
Pause before reacting:
When triggered by someones behavior, breathe. Ask yourself: “What fear or pain might be hiding underneath?”
Bless instead of curse:
When encountering harshness, silently offer a blessing. “May you remember your own light, and I remember mine.”
Forgive yourself first:
When you fall short of your own ideals, place a hand on your heart and say: “I am still divine. I am still learning. I am still worthy of love.”
Practice sacred vision:
Each day, try to see at least one person – stranger, friend, or yourself – not through the lens of actions, but through the lens of eternal spirit.It is not built by ignoring darkness.
It is built by facing it with clear eyes, and choosing love anyway.
The Great Remembering is not naive.
It is courageous.
It is the choice to hold both truth and compassion together
and to walk forward, remembering that every soul — every single one —
is a part of the journey home.
You Are Divine.
They Are Divine.
All Are Walking Home.
May we meet each soul, including our own, with the eyes of remembrance.
There are seasons in life when everything feels tender. Maybe something ends. Maybe something begins. Maybe nothing on the outside has changed, but inside, something is stirring. It’s easy to wonder what’s going wrong. Why the ache, the uncertainty, the unraveling. But what if it isn’t a sign that we’re breaking down? What if it’s a sign that we’re breaking open?
There’s a term I’ve come to love for these moments: Catalyst. A term I first encountered through the lens of spiritual study, but one that applies to life no matter your belief system. Catalyst is anything that shakes us, stirs us, or stretches us. Not because we’re being punished, but because we’re being shown something. Something we’re ready to see, feel, or become.
Catalyst Comes in Many Forms
Catalyst doesn’t always arrive like lightning. Sometimes it tiptoes in, disguised as a new relationship, a big opportunity, a conversation you cant forget. Sometimes it shows up as someone who triggers you. Sometimes its joy that cracks you open- and sometimes its grief that does the same. Catalyst can be found in endings, beginnings, boredom, chaos, stillness, or even that one sentence someone said that keeps echoing in your mind. It’s not the form it takes that matters, it’s what it activates in you.
Our First Response: Resistance and Fixing
Before we consciously invite growth, we often unconsciously summon it. We manifest the people, places, and patterns that stir the sleeping parts of us. Not to punish ourselves, but because some part of us is ready to remember it. Ready to feel. Ready to heal.
But when catalyst arrives, especially in the beginning, our first instinct is usually to resist. To fix it. To control it. To ask: “How do I get back to how things were?” It’s only with time (and a lot of grace) that we begin to ask a different question: “What is this here to show me?”
Presence Over Perfection
When we stop trying to escape the discomfort, a new kind of space opens within us. A space where we can listen. A space where we can ask: What part of me is waking up through this? Sometimes the answer comes easily. Sometimes it takes months, years, or even decades to fully unfold.
Catalyst often asks for something we don’t expect: not action, not immediate understanding- but presence. A willingness to stay open even when it hurts. A willingness to hold ourselves tenderly in the uncertainty, trusting that meaning will reveal itself in time.
Because Catalyst is rarely about the surface event, it’s about what the event activates inside of us.
Conscious Catalyst
There comes a moment, sometimes quiet, sometimes profound, when we realize that life isn’t happening to us, it’s happening for us. It’s not that the pain disappears overnight. It’s that something inside of us shifts. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” we begin to ask, “What is this awakening in me?”
This is the moment the catalyst transforms from something we fear into something we can work with. We stop resisting the discomfort and start listening to it. We stop trying to fix ourselves and start honoring the ways we are being reshaped. After all, that’s why we came here!
Conscious catalyst doesn’t mean we stop feeling pain. It means we stop making pain the enemy. We recognize it for what it is: a teacher, a messenger, a bridge.
And in that recognition, we step into our power. Not the power to control life, but the power to co-create with it.
Empowerment in Practice: How to Trust the Catalyst
Trusting the catalyst doesn’t mean forcing yourself to enjoy the discomfort. It doesn’t mean pretending you’re fine when you’re not. It means giving yourself permission to become aware within the experience, instead of collapsing under it.
When I was recently in a car accident, I was faced with a choice. I could have let fear and scarcity take over- believing I had lost something essential, that I had fallen behind, that life was working against me. But instead, I chose to trust. I chose to believe that I could always have what I need. That even when things seem to fall apart, something greater is being built. That worry and stress were not my true guides- faith was. And through that trust, I found peace in the unknown.
Catalyst invites all of us into that same choice. Not once. But again, and again, and again.
Here are a few ways to gently walk with catalyst when it arrives:
Reflect instead of react: When something stirs a big emotion or unexpected shift, pause. Before labeling it “good” or “bad” simply ask: “What might this be showing me?” Sometimes the insight is immediate. Sometimes it unfolds slowly. Trust the timing.
Feel instead of fix: Pain often asks to be felt, not solved. Instead of rushing to change your circumstances, allow yourself to sit with the feeling. “What does this emotion want me to know?”
Trust timing instead of forcing outcomes: Catalyst rarely delivers neat, fast answers. Growth is a spiral, not a straight line. “What if this moment is planting seeds I cannot yet see?”
Trust that the meaning will reveal itself when you’re ready to receive it.
You are not failing if you feel discomfort. You are not falling apart if you feel unsure. You are becoming. You are unfolding into the fullness of you you already are.
You Are Not Broken, You Are Becoming
Every moment of discomfort you have survived has shaped the depth of who you are. Every catalyst you’ve walked through has expanded your ability to love, to listen, and to live more fully.
You are not broken because you have struggled. You are not lost because you have grieved. You are not failing because you sometimes feel afraid.
You are becoming.
Catalyst doesn’t come to prove your inadequacy, it comes so you can finally realize you are already whole. It comes to reveal your resilience. It comes to show you that even when life rearranges itself around you, the core of who you are remains steady, whole, and worthy.
The next time something stirs you, shakes you, or challenges you, I invite you to pause. Take a breath. Place a hand over your heart. And ask yourself:
“What if this, too, is part of my becoming?”
You are stronger than you know. You are wiser than you realize. And you are exactly where you are meant to be.
There’s a quiet belief most of us are taught from the moment we arrive on Earth: that we must choose. Choose between right or wrong. Between logic or intuition. Between softness or strength. Between being spiritual or being realistic.
This stage of our souls journey kicks designed to help us grow through these contrasts. We learn by experiencing opposites- joy and pain, light and shadow, self and others. But at some point, many of us begin to feel the truth whispering beneath it all: “What if we were never meant to pick a side? What if we are both- and more?”
This post is an Invitation to look at the dichotomies we’ve absorbed- internally and externally- and gently begin to remember: “Oneness doesn’t require us to abandon complexity. It asks us to integrate it.”
Why We Experience Dichotomy
At this stage of our soul’s journey, we come to Earth not just to “know” the light, but to experience what it’s like to forget it- and to find our way back home. We arrive here to learn through contrast. To walk through the Illusion of separation so that, through our choices, we may remember truth.
Dichotomy, or the perception of “this or that,” is one of the primary tools used in this reality. It teaches us. It sharpens us. It invites us to define what we value by experiencing what we don’t.
But at some point, this once useful contrast begins to feel more like a cage than a guide. We start to see how binary thinking limits our wholeness. We start to question: Why do I have to be either gentle or powerful? Why do I have to be either spiritual or grounded in the world? What if the real truth is found in the “blending” and not the splitting?
As we evolve, we are no longer served by choosing sides with ourselves or the world. We are called to integrate- to become one.
How Dichotomy Shows Up in Our Lives
The illusion of “either/or” doesn’t just shape the world around us- it shapes how we see ourselves. its subtle, often unspoken, but its there in the decisions we make, the judgement’s we hold, and the pressure we feel to be one thing or another.
Internally, it might sound like:
“Am I too emotional, or too disconnected?”
“Should I follow my heart or be logical?”
“Do I forgive, or do I protect myself?”
“Can I be spiritual and financially abundant?”
These inner conflicts are not signs that something is wrong with us- they’re invitations. Invitations to realize that we are not meant to “choose between parts of ourselves” we are meant to “honor the whole.”
You can be both soft and strong.
You can be spiritual and grounded.
You can have boundaries and compassion.
Externally, dichotomy shows up in the systems we live within:
Gender roles and societal expectations
Political division and ideological extremism
The “awake vs. asleep” mindset within spiritual communities
Even within healing itself: “You’re either healed, or you’re not”
As we step into empowerment, we can sometimes unknowingly mimic the very behaviors we once resisted. In seeking to reclaim power, many women have been conditioned to adopt traits that reflect dominance, emotional detachment, or hyper-independence- mirroring the same patterns they were trying to free themselves from. This isn’t wrong- it’s just unconscious. And now, were waking up to it.
The same is true in spiritual places, in our pursuit of awakening, we may subtly begin to judge others for not being “far enough along” or “seeing the truth.” But these distinctions only feed the illusion of separation- the very thing we are here to dissolve.
Forgiveness is the medicine. Forgiveness of ourselves for once believing we have to choose. Forgiveness of others for still living in that illusion. When we forgive, shame no longer has a place to hide. And when we forgive ourselves, only then can we forgive the world around us.
The truth is, real transformation happens in the space between extremes. It’s in the nuance, the grey areas, the holding of “many truths at once.” That’s where wholeness lives.
The Invitation: Integration, Not Elimination
Dichotomy teaches us to divide. Integration invites us to remember.
We’ve been taught to see parts of ourselves as in conflict- to fix one part by rejecting another. But healing doesn’t come through “elimination” it comes through embracing the full spectrum of who we are.
Integration says:
You don’t need to silence your inner child to be a responsible adult
You don’t need to reject your ego to be spiritual
You don’t need to become “all light” to be whole
True wholeness happens when we bring all parts of ourselves to the table- even the ones we’ve tried to hide, control, or deny. This is the essence of what many call “shadow work.” The practice of meeting our unconscious beliefs, wounds, and rejected traits not with shame, but with compassion and curiosity.
It doesn’t mean we excuse harm or stay in patterns that no longer serve us. It means we ask: “What were you trying to protect? What were you trying to teach me?”
Because when we approach ourselves with curiosity instead of critique, we create the space for real transformation to unfold.
Oneness doesn’t erase our complexity- it embraces it. And when we learn to integrate within, we naturally begin to see others through the same lens: as layered, evolving beings doing the best they can with what they’ve remembered.
Practical Steps to Dissolve Dichotomy
The work of dissolving dichotomy doesn’t always happen in big, dramatic moments. Often, its in the quiet practice of noticing, witnessing, and choosing differently.
Journal Prompts:
Where in my life am I choosing sides-Within myself or with others?
What parts of myself do I believe can’t coexist?
Have I ever been told I’m “too much” of something? What might that part be trying to express?
What behaviors or traits in others trigger me the most- and could these be reflections of something I haven’t yet accepted in myself?
Embodiment Practices:
Mirror work- Look into your eyes and affirm: “I welcome all of me- even the parts I’ve rejected”
Noticing judgements- When you feel triggered by someone else, pause and ask “is this showing me a part of myself I haven’t fully made peace with?”
Integration check-ins- Sit with two seemingly opposite traits (eg. control and surrender) and explore how both may have served you at different times.
Daily Reminder:
You don’t need to be perfect to be whole.
You don’t need to pick a side to be true to yourself.
You are allowed to hold both love and grief. Certainty and doubt. Peace and passion.
And when someone else’s behavior stirs something deep within you, it may be your soul offering you a mirror- not to judge, but to heal. What you see in them may be a reflection of what longs for love in you.
You are allowed to be all of you.
You Were Never Meant to Choose
You were never meant to split yourself in half to fit into a world that forgot its wholeness. You were never meant to choose between the wild and the wise, the grounded and the divine, the logic and the love.
You came here to remember that you are both- and more. You are the spot where the opposites meet and dissolve. You are the still point beneath every duality. You are the bridge, the weaver, the integration itself.
There is no part of you that is unworthy of love. No trait too contradictory. No wound too complicated.
You were born worthy. There is nothing you need to prove, fix, or become in order to be whole. Your worth is not earned, it is remembered.
You are not broken- you are layered. And in the eyes of All That Is, you are already whole.
So, when you catch yourself picking sides within, pause. Breathe. And ask:
“What if both of these parts are sacred? What if I can hold them both?”
The moment you stop trying to divide yourself is the moment you begin to feel the truth again:
You are one. You always have been.
So, the next time you meet or see someone who leads with anger.. who speaks contempt.. who acts in ways that trigger judgement or disgust- I invite you to pause. Take a breath.
And remember:
This, too, is a soul. A child still learning. Their actions may be distorted, but their essence is still divine. Dissolve the illusion of separation and ask:
“What part of me once felt this lost? What part of me is being called to love?”
Because when you choose to see the divinity in the most difficult reflections, you become the bridge. You become the healer. you become the path to oneness.
When you think of meditation, you might picture someone sitting cross-legged in silence, eyes closed, mind completely blank. And if that’s not you, it can be easy to think, “I guess I’m just not the meditating type.”
But here’s the truth, meditation isn’t about clearing your mind or reaching some mystical state. It’s not reserved for monks or deeply spiritual people. In fact, many of us are already meditating- we just don’t call it that.
Science now shows that meditation isn’t one rigid practice—it’s a spectrum of ways we train our attention, regulate our nervous system, and reconnect with the present moment. Even a few slow breaths, a walk without your phone, or quietly noticing your thoughts without judgment—that’s meditation.
And it matters more than ever. In a world that’s constantly pulling our focus outward, meditation helps us return to ourselves. It reduces stress, calms the nervous system, improves emotional regulation, and deepens self awareness. It’s not about escaping life, its about meeting it fully, with presence.
This post is here to bust the myths, drop the pressure, and help you realize: you already have what it takes.
What We’ve Been Told And Why It’s Misleading
Over time, meditation has become wrapped in a lot of expectations, some of which make it feel inaccessible or intimidating. Here are a few of the most common myths you may have heard (or believed yourself)
You have to clear your mind: This is probably the biggest one. But the mind is not meant to be empty—it’s meant to be observed. Meditation isn’t about stopping thoughts, but about noticing them without getting caught up in them.
You have to sit in silence for a long time: While some people enjoy this style, it’s not the only way. Movement based practices, mindful walking, journaling, or even guided meditations are equally valid and powerful.
You have to feel peaceful right away: Meditation doesn’t always feel good in the moment. Sometimes it brings up discomfort- and that’s okay! That’s part of the healing and unwinding.
These ideas came from a mix of cultural misunderstanding, spiritual elitism, and well-intentioned but narrow teachings. But the truth is, meditation is for humans, not just sages. And we’re allowed to redefine it in a way that honors our lives, our bodies, and our minds.
Ways To Meditate That Might Surprise You
If traditional meditation hasn’t worked for you, you’re not alone. The good news is: there are so many ways to meditate- and many of them don’t look like meditation at all.
Meditation is any moment you bring your awareness fully to the present without judgement. That means it can look like:
Taking a slow walk without your phone, simply noticing your steps and breath.
Washing dishes while fully feeling the water and movement.
Journaling as a way to witness your thoughts instead of drowning them.
Sitting with your hands on your heart and breathing deeply for 2 minutes.
Repeating an affirmation or mantra while gently swaying or stretching.
Listening to calming music and noticing every layer of sound.
Observing nature- the wind in the trees, a candle flame, the rhythm of rain.
These practices are just as valid as sitting cross-legged on a cushion. What makes something meditation isn’t how it looks—it’s how it feels. It’s the presence you bring to it.
You might already be meditating without realizing it—and now you have permission to claim it as sacred.
Meditation Is Yours Now
You don’t need special music, incense, or an hour of silence to meditate. You don’t need to be a yogi or a monk. You just need a moment- and a willingness to meet yourself there.
Meditation is not about escaping your life. It’s about being more alive within it. More aware. More connected. More you.
Whether you’re sitting quietly, walking slowly, breathing deeply, or writing your heart onto a page—if you’re doing it with presence and love, it counts.
So, release the pressure. Drop the image. Your version of meditation is allowed to be simple, imperfect, and yours.
Try meditating today—in your own way. Let it be gentle. Let it be enough. Let it be you.
Unlocking the Self: How Astrology, Tarot, and Other tools Guide Us Home
Discovering the True Self can be one of the most profound and rewarding experiences a soul can have on Earth. This journey of self-remembering is deeply personal, yet woven with universal themes that connect us all. Each awakening unfolds in its own way, guided by the unique callings of the soul. Some are drawn to the stars, seeking wisdom in the cosmic language of astrology. Others find meaning in symbols, archetypes, or intricate energetic systems.
We are fortunate to live in a time when countless tools exist to assist in this sacred process. Whether you feel pulled toward Astrology, Tarot, Human Design, or the Tree of Life, the path you choose is not random—it is resonant, a reflection of what your soul is ready to explore. These tools may seem different on the surface, yet they all serve the same purpose: to guide you back to the truth that has always been within you.
You are already whole. You are oneness. This journey is simply about remembering.
The Role of Self-Actualization Tools
Self-actualization is not a neat, linear process—it’s a profound unraveling. As you begin to awaken to deeper truths, you may experience a whirlwind of emotions that feel impossible to make sense of in the moment. The beliefs you once held true may begin to crumble. People you thought you knew may reveal layers you never noticed before. You may suddenly feel drawn to ideas, practices, or perspectives that once seemed foreign to you. And perhaps most disorienting of all, you might find it harder to relate to those around you, as if you’ve stepped into a new reality while others remain unchanged.
During this time of transition, it’s natural to feel isolated or untethered, longing for a guiding hand to help you make sense of it all. Not everyone has a mentor to walk beside them on this path, but thankfully, we live in a time where self-actualization tools exist as maps for the inner landscape. Whether through astrology, tarot, humans design, or the Tree of Life, these tools offer a language for understanding the changes you’re experiencing and a structure to help you navigate the unknown.
I remember how isolating it felt when I first began the process of exploring my shadow—peeling back layers of conditioning and shining light on the parts of myself I had long ignored, like buried treasures waiting to be unearthed. Each revelation was both daunting and exhilarating, a dance between fear and curiosity. There were few people I could openly discuss this profound journey with, and I often felt as though I was wandering in unfamiliar territory, surrounded by a dense fog of confusion and uncertainty, with no one to confirm that what I was experiencing was real or valid. In those moments, I yearned for connection, for someone who understood the complexity of my feelings and the significance of my discoveries, yet there was a deep-rooted belief that this journey was mine alone, a path I had to tread without a map or guide.
Then, by chance—or perhaps by fate—I stumbled upon something that changed everything for me. As I was scrolling through TikTok, I came across a fascinating series of “collective tarot readings” that instantly captivated my attention. The concept that I could find out how someone truly feels about me, essentially deciphering their emotions and thoughts, was both exhilarating and intimidating. Tarot was not entirely new for me; my brother had been a practitioner for years, often sharing anecdotes about his readings, and I had always been somewhat familiar with Astrology through him. However, despite this exposure, I had never felt the compelling urge to explore the Tarot for myself—until that moment. It was as if the universe was nudging me to dive deeper into this mystical realm, to unravel the threads of my own destiny and relationships. The allure of understanding hidden emotions and insights sparked a curiosity that I couldn’t resist, prompting me to embark on a journey of self-discovery and connection that I had never anticipated.
The moment I began studying tarot, something clicked within me, igniting a spark of curiosity that had long lain dormant. For the first time in my life, I understood how people could truly fall in love with learning, and this revelation was transformative. I was utterly fascinated, not just with the cards themselves, each uniquely adorned with symbols and stories, but with the way they seemed to reflect back pieces of myself I hadn’t been able to articulate before. It was as if these cards held up a mirror to my innermost thoughts and feelings, revealing hidden fears and dreams that I had barely acknowledged. I found myself eagerly returning to my books and my cards, immersing myself in the rich history and philosophy behind each reading, as if I had uncovered a hidden doorway into my own soul. Every session felt like a deep dive into an ocean of wisdom and insight, where every card drawn unfolded new layers of understanding and self-discovery. The process became a cherished ritual, where intuition intertwined with knowledge, crafting a narrative that was as enlightening as it was empowering.
At first, I used tarot to understand how others perceived me, seeking clarity on relationships and connections. But as I deepened my practice, I realized the true power of this tool wasn’t in reading others—it was in reading myself. Tarot became a mirror, helping me navigate the ever-changing terrain of self-discovery. It showed me I wasn’t alone or lost; I was simply unfolding, layer by layer. And most importantly, it gave me the confidence to keep going.
The Tools & Their Unique Perspectives
Astrology: The study of celestial bodies—such as the Sun, Moon, and planets—interacts with and influences human life based on their positions in the sky at any given time. It operates on the principle that the universe is interconnected, meaning the movement of the planets reflects patterns in our personal and collective experiences. The purpose of astrology is to offer insight into an individual’s personality, life path, and potential challenges and strengths. It acts as a tool for self-awareness, helping people align with their unique nature and navigate life with greater understanding. Many also use astrology to time important events, understand relationships, and gain a broader perspective on spiritual growth and purpose. Ultimately, astrology provides a structured and comprehensive framework for understanding oneself and one’s life journey.
Tarot: Tarot is a symbolic and intuitive system that serves as a mirror for the subconscious mind, guiding individuals toward self-awareness, transformation, and spiritual evolution. Unlike astrology, which maps a cosmic blueprint, tarot speaks in archetypal language, revealing insights about the present moment and the deeper layers of the psyche. Tarot is not about external fate—it’s about internal alignment. It helps the seeker recognize the archetypal energies influencing their life and invites them to actively shape their reality. It is a tool of self-dialogue, reflection, and transformation, making it one of the most personal and profound systems for self-actualization.
Human Design: Human Design is a self-actualization tool that combines astrology, the I Ching, the Kabbalistic Tree of Life, the chakra system, and quantum physics to reveal how an individual’s energy is designed to operate in the world. Unlike tarot, which reflects the subconscious, or astrology, which maps cosmic influence, Human Design is about mechanics—how energy flows through the body and interacts with others. It is a system for practical alignment, offering specific guidance on how to make decisions, manage energy, and fulfill one’s purpose with ease rather than resistance. Human Design is like a user manual for your soul’s energy—it won’t tell you what will happen, but how to best navigate life in alignment with your true self.
The Tree of Life: The Tree of Life is a mystical framework that serves as a blueprint of the Universe, consciousness, and the human soul’s journey back to divine unity. Unlike astrology (which maps planetary influence), tarot (which speaks through archetypes), or Human Design (which guides energy mechanics), the Tree of Life is a sacred map of spiritual evolution, providing a structured way to understand divine wisdom, personal transformation, and the bridge between the material and spiritual worlds. Rooted in Kabbalistic tradition, the Tree of Life is composed of 10 Sefirot (spheres of consciousness) and 22 connecting pathways, each representing a specific aspect of existence, divine intelligence, and the unfolding of self-actualization.
Which one is for you? (Maybe all of them!)
If you feel drawn to explore your spiritual journey on a deeper level—whether you’re just beginning, have always been curious about these tools, or are looking for something new to expand your understanding—trust that calling. Your intuition knows the way.
Let yourself be guided by what sparks curiosity and excitement within you. If a particular tool resonates—whether it’s astrology, tarot, human design, or the Tree of Life—follow that thread. Engage with it, explore it, and see where it leads. If something feels confusing, overwhelming, or simply doesn’t click, that’s okay too. Self-actualization isn’t a rigid path, and there is no “right way” to navigate it.
The more important thing is to listen to yourself, as your intuition serves as a guiding compass through life’s intricate journey. Pay attention to the signals your body and energy give you, for they often provide invaluable insights about your emotional and spiritual state. Excitement is a powerful indicator of alignment, frequently appearing when you are on the right path, while frustration or confusion may be gently nudging you toward a different direction or prompting you to reevaluate your goals and priorities. It’s essential to recognize that these emotions are not inherently good or bad; rather, they are signals that can lead you to deeper self-understanding. And if a tool doesn’t resonate now, it might later—our understanding unfolds in layers, much like the petals of a flower, and we may find ourselves returning to what we were ready for in the right time, having gained new perspectives and insights. Embracing this journey of self-discovery and allowing yourself the grace to evolve is a crucial aspect of personal growth.
You are never alone in this process. There is always energy guiding you, supporting you, and pushing you toward deeper understanding. And in this vast, interconnected world, there are countless kindred spirits walking similar paths. If you ever have questions or feel the need for connection, seek out those who share your curiosity. The internet, for all its distractions, is also an incredible tool—a mirror reflecting the infinite ways we can learn, grow, and remember who we are.
Most of all, trust yourself. Your journey is uniquely yours, and every step—no matter how small—is leading you home.
The Path Leads Inward
No matter which tool you choose, the journey of self-actualization always leads to the same destination – yourself. Astrology, Tarot, Human Design, and the Tree of Life are all guides, maps that help us navigate the vast terrain of who we are. But no map can replace the experience of walking the path itself.
As you explore these tools, you may come to realize that the answers you seek were never outside of you—they were always within, waiting to be remembered. The journey of self-discovery can be profound, filled with moments of introspection and clarity that unveil the depths of your wisdom. Often, we search externally for solutions, forgetting that the source of insight lies within our own experiences and intuition. And this is where the true work begins: learning to be present with yourself, embracing each thought and feeling as they come, cultivating a deep sense of awareness and acceptance that allows you to reconnect with your authentic self. Through this process, you may find a newfound strength and resilience, equipping you to face life’s challenges with confidence and grace.
Meditation is one of the most profound ways to integrate what you uncover on this journey. It’s a space where insights settle, where the noise quiets, and where you can hear the voice of your own soul. Yet, many people hesitate to begin because of misconceptions about what meditation is supposed to look like.
In my next post, I will explore the infinite ways to meditate—how it doesn’t have to be about silencing the mind or achieving some mystical experience, but simply about being with what is. Because sometimes, the greatest realization of all is that you don’t have to search— you only have to be.
What if the dreams you had as a child weren’t just fantasies…but glimpses into your true path?
From a school notebook, I was five years old.
As children, we are deeply connected to our souls blueprint before conditioning takes over.The things we are drawn to, obsessed with, or dreamed about hold clues to what we are meant to do. When we look back at what fascinated us, what we naturally did without effort, we begin to trace the line of our destiny.
Neurologically, children operate mostly in theta brainwave states (0-7 years old) which are the same states accessed in deep meditation and hypnosis. This means children are in a highly receptive, intuitive, and imaginative state, deeply connected to pure inspiration and innate knowing. Their minds are like sponges, absorbing information and experiences without the filters that often develop as we age. As we grow older, societal expectations, and self-doubt often make us dismiss these childhood dreams as “impractical,” but those early fascinations weren’t random. They served as glimpses into what could be possible, an untainted vision of creativity and potential that many adults, burdened by responsibilities and skepticism, struggle to reclaim. Encouraging children to nurture these imaginative pursuits can lead to innovative thinkers and problem solvers of the future, highlighting the importance of preserving that magical connection to their innate curiosity and desires. By understanding and valuing this unique way of thinking, we can bridge the gap between childhood wonder and adult pragmatism, fostering environments that celebrate creativity and exploration rather than stifling them.
Think back to your childhood—what lit you up? What did you pretend to be? What did you spend hours doing? Those weren’t just games; they were signs! If you pretended to be a teacher, leader, or storyteller, those gifts are still inside you! If you loved being in nature, working with animals, or talking to spirits, that connection is still calling you back.
As a child, I spent time outside, mixing grass and dirt and pretending I was creating potions in my cauldron. I danced freely and often and sang whenever I felt called. This wasn’t just my imagination getting away with me; it was a remembering! My younger self already knew who she was, and so did you. There is now such a clear line connecting what fascinated me as a child to my purpose here on Earth. The more I connected with that young witch, the more I remembered the oneness inherent in all things.
Your childhood dreams weren’t random. They were the whispers of your soul, reminding you of who you truly are and the passions that lit up your spirit before the world introduced its limitations. It’s never too late to follow them, regardless of how far away you may feel from that innocent sense of wonder. If you feel disconnected from that part of yourself, start small and be gentle with your journey back. Ask your younger self what they loved, what made them feel alive and free, and allow those memories to surface. Let yourself daydream again, free from the constraints of adult responsibilities. Create, play, explore—without judgment or fear of failure. Engage with hobbies that once brought you joy, read stories that spark your imagination, or even try new creative outlets that you’ve been hesitant to explore. The more you honor your inner child, the more clearly you’ll hear their voice guiding you back home to yourself, illuminating the path to fulfillment and joy that you’ve long overlooked. Embrace this journey of rediscovery, for it holds the key to a vibrant and authentic life.
Me, at my preschool graduation where they asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” and I answered: “Barbie”
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